Maybe it's true; maybe not, but whatever he decides, it's his life. I'm writing concerning the news that Zayn Malik has left the boy band, One Direction, and fans are shedding some tears. Before anyone throws accusations and opinions out there, have they thought to ask why? Zayn joined this band as a teen; most people tend to forget that. Imagine getting endless scrutiny from your teen years till you clock twenty-two. Some 'so called fans' automatically act like they know you and they feel they have a say in whatever you do just because they think they're entitled. He gets a haircut; someone has something bad to say about it. He opens his eyes; someone has an opinion about it. How can a person live like that? Many will say that he knew what he was getting into for wanting to be a singer. That is not a fair statement because no one should live like they have minions micro-managing their every move. Some boy bands formed at a more mature age and still could not handle the hate from the mean idiots out there. The truth is, no matter how old you are, you cannot toughen up enough to protect yourself from feeling bad about what people say to you, about you, or about someone close to you. What I hope is that Zayn Malik has thought through this before deciding to quit because based on other boy bands that have had a member quit, that member wanted to return in later years. Having a taste of this life and leaving it after a number of years will not be easy for him, since the other members will continue without him. But, if that's what he wants and he thinks it's better for him, he has the right to live his life in the way he sees best. To those tweens bawling their eyes out, suck it up! When you were feeling good, hiding behind your tweeter feeds, being abusive, judgmental, and scary, did you not realize that you could drive him to call it quits?
(ukoemem - Author; Ola Y - Editor)
Wednesday, March 25, 2015
Tuesday, March 10, 2015
As long as we cannot read minds, we should not wish to be anyone else but ourselves. Why? because we never know the true story of people's lives. Photos and videos are deceptive. We are shown only what people want us to see and not what the situation really is.
Okay, this is a deep blog post but I just had to share my thoughts on the matter. I'm writing this because lately I've seen comments like "life goals" under photos of people looking glamorous or couples looking happy and in love. I'm not saying we shouldn't aspire for the better things in life but I'm pointing out that the photos only show a moment, and not the person's whole life. People wishing to be others based on photos are aiming to be "their perception of the person's life." Why waste your time wishing and living false lives, just to be a counterfeit of someone else? Then one day, you wake up and wonder who you really are. Why not learn about yourself and discover all you can do? Why not aim to be a better version of yourself instead?
Wishing to be someone else based on the photos they post creates an unhealthy obsession that makes individuals angry when they later discover less than ideal things about their so called "life goal target." We are all humans. Life is not always rosy but we feel inclined to share the best; best picture, best videos, best moments etc. Live your own life and admire your idols but don't wish to be them because you aren't seeing the whole picture.
(ukoemem - Author; Ola Y - Editor)