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I'll tell you a story, but first, the familiar questions: Do you want to be financially secure? Do you want to be your own boss? Do you ...

Friday, November 28, 2014

Looking Good Naomi

A friend of mine forwarded this photo collage of the beautiful Naomi Campbell to me with the caption, "I hope I look as good in twenty years." While this photo makes us hope for this kind good bud in years to come, let us not stress and create this exact standard for ourselves. It comes with a certain lifestyle. I'm not saying it's impossible to achieve this svelte figure in decades to come. I'm just saying that we all have different looks, body types, and live different lifestyles that influence our body development. Granted I will advocate for healthy eating and exercise but we should realize that a glam team that makes this look possible. She is also being paid to look great and also not having children plays a role to her advantage here. Okay you might say Heidi Klum has children, yes, but don't forget that she has her beauty team too. While it nice to set "look" goals for ourselves, let us not get carried away by what we are made to see. No one will share regular bloated photos of themselves when they have good looking ones like this. While you're beating yourself for the five pounds you gained or the five you will gain after Thanksgiving, just remember that she didn't wake up looking like that. She has dedicated herself to a routine that works for her and made compromises that has gotten her here. Set your own "look goals" and work hard to get there so that you can flaunt it whichever way you want.

Tuesday, November 25, 2014

I Couldn't Help Myself

So the gorgeous Solange wedded recently. She looked so beautiful from head to toe that most news outlets couldn't stop gushing about her unique wedding style. I was so impressed with her natural hairstyle and even though some people had unpleasant comments about it, it didn't matter because she clearly enjoyed her day. Then I came across a stream of hateful messages under the photo with Solange and the Blue Ivy. I am not one to comment but I felt compelled to defend them. I still wonder why people think they have the right to bring down someone for something as natural as hair texture. I almost exploded when I saw the photos of ninety percent of the individuals making the hateful comment. These commenters were black. They certainly have the same or similar hair textures. So why do they think they have the right to make comments like that when underneath their wigs and weaves they have the same hair?   

"Shame on you for judging on black natural hair. You know better. Why pretend that you do not know how painful coarse hair is to maintain? Every individual has different pain thresholds and don't forget that black hair has different textures. Some people are blessed with softer easy-to-comb textures while some are blessed with hard break-the-comb texture. It is hard for any adult with natural hair, let alone a child, to go through the combing process regardless of hair products in it. Some mothers can't stand to watch their child in pain and they decide to let them be instead. While some mothers can take in the screams and comb the darn thing till it behaves. This is a kid's hair for crying out loud. There are more important things to worry about like, if the child is starved or violently beaten. Those recommending texturizers and relaxers, I'm going to refrain from calling you names because you know better; the child's scalp, the burns; you should know better. Take care of your own kid the way you want and leave Beyonce to take care of hers."

Monday, November 10, 2014

Plus Size...For Real?

This is Calvin Klein's definition of plus size. 

Myla Dalbesio

Size 10

It's no secret that "Plus Size" in the fashion industry means fat, even though you keep healthy. Unfortunately, being large-boned is not an excuse. Now size 10s would have to deal with fat-shaming. What's this world turning into? Go back in time and see how size 10s where much appreciated for their womanly shapes. I hope this size labeling changes for the better for women because this news sizes are highly unrealistic.

Friday, November 7, 2014


Caitriona Balfe in her Outlander Wedding Dress

I'm a massive fan of Diana Gabaldon's "Outlander" book series. I used the word "massive" because of the speed I went through her dictionary-sized books. It's no news that I love to read books but I noticed I don't just read Gabaldon's books, I study them. The sizes can scare people but when they make the "mistake" of picking up the first book, they get hooked! I'm not writing a review of her books because I don't think I can describe how I feel, in words, about her books. I still can't imagine how someone can write books with numerous characters and build and connect them so well. One can picture all these characters perfectly because they have personalities that are individual to themselves. I don't even want to get into the historical story aspect of the books. I'm not even going to get into the accuracy of the times she wrote about. I guess what I'm going to get into is the fashion aspect.

I found myself researching about clan colors, kilts, and dresses that were native to those lands in that century. It was fascinating. I still remember the discomfort I felt when I saw a seventeenth century corseted dress. All I saw was a picture and I couldn't imagine wearing something that squished my boobs and my waist, basically obstructing my breathing and digestive functions. Still, I was fascinated.

Then came the Television series and It took me to heaven. The casting was stellar by the way. I got to see first hand, the various pieces of clothing and accessories a woman wore in the seventeenth century to get the shape and posture of the style. I noticed that even though they covered up, they still showed skin mostly at the top, depending on the occasion. I'm still learning about the outfits as I secretly rejoice that ladies do not have to go through the torture of corsets in this century. 

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