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How hot does Leslie Jones look in the photo above? This is a face we know in the world of comedy and you would think that as popular as...

Wednesday, July 13, 2016

Size Market

How hot does Leslie Jones look in the photo above? This is a face we know in the world of comedy and you would think that as popular as she is, she can get favors from designers. I thought so, until I read her tweet about designers refusing to dress her for her event. Say what?

"It's so funny how there are no designers wanting to help me with a premiere dress for movie. Hmmm that will change and I remember everything."

I have heard this same complaint before and it was from a plus size celebrity. One would think that a reasonable designer would catch the opportunity and exclusively design outfits for the celebs who clearly need their service. It is shocking to hear that that is not the case. These designers are so bent on making mannequin-sized clothes that if you happen to find anything that fits you, yay, lucky you.

The funny thing was that when I read Leslie Jones' complaint, the first designer that came to mind that could rectify the situation was Christian Siriano. He is known for making gorgeous clothes for celebs of all shapes and sizes. In fact, whenever you see those celebs in his designs, they exude a level of confidence that you immediately know that the clothes were made specifically for them. How are other designers missing out on this opportunity? Then guess what? I saw Christian Siriano's reply to Leslie Jones and all was well in the world.

Fast forward and you see the photo of her in that red dress. Yes, that's a dress designed for her by Christian Siriano, which he describes as, "Simple, elegant, and chic!"

This situation has got me thinking about how celebrities who face this size discrimination from designers can use it to their advantage. There are upcoming designers out there who would be in the heaven if a celebrity wore their designs. Celebs could just tweet or post about needing a dress and viola, I'm sure they'll get a bunch on their doorsteps. Then they can in turn, open doors for the aspiring designers by mentioning and thanking them on the red carpet.

(ukoemem - Author; Ola Y - Editor)

Thursday, June 30, 2016

When Fans Bet on Your Relationship

Don't roll your eyes in irritation. This is an interesting news considering that Taylor Swift has one of the largest loyal fan bases out there. I was one of those who heard of her whirlwind romance with Tom Hiddleston just after breaking up with her boyfriend, Calvin Harris, of over a year. I was also one of those who, after seeing some romantic photos, hoped that it was a music video shoot. However, that didn't seem to be the case. Fast forward, photos have surface of Taylor Swift meeting Tom Hiddleston's mom. While this is supposed to be an aww-appropriate moment, the timing is weird. Maybe these days, people take you home to meet the parents within a few weeks of dating. Hmm, anyway, that is not my concern. My reason for writing this post is fans of Taylor also feel weird about the relationship and are betting on how long it would last. Sad, right? One would think they'd be in support of her no matter what. After all, her dating life is no news. She sings about it.

So what is it about this relationship that gives them a bitter taste? It can't be Tom Hiddleston, can it? He's a charmer and just last week, people were congratulating Taylor on her supposedly good choice. Is it because there is an actual chance of this relationship working out no natter how fast-paced it seems? Taylor's latest ex-boyfriend, Calvin Harris, has gotten enough flack because of her new romance, citing him as jealous and a sore loser. Tom Hiddleston is now getting flack for being an opportunist, using Taylor for his status. I thought Tom was a leading man in his own right and didn't need a career boost, but I guess I'm rusty in my celebrity popularity knowledge. While I'm frowning against the bet, I think Taylor's dating history and her inability to stay under the radar with her relationships are the causes of it. But who are celebs if you don't talk about them, right? Good luck to both of them.

(ukoemem - Author; Ola Y - Editor)

Wednesday, June 29, 2016


Europeans, as well as other people in the world have voiced their admiration and concerns about the referendum of the United Kingdom's membership of the European Union. We know that UK's vote to leave the European Union won. Was it the right choice?

From BBC News

The word "Brexit" is just a combination of Britain and Exit. Everyone around the world has reacted differently to the outcome of the vote. The market reacted, the people reacted, and even the weather reacted!

Some people have applauded the UK for the bold move. Others are wondering if the UK thought about the repercussions before making this life changing decision. From where I'm sitting, a lady is talking about how her travels would be affected. Not far from us, a man is applauding the UK for "manning up," as though it's all about being bullied.

First of all, what is the European Union (EU)? Formed after World War II was "an economic and political partnership involving 28 European countries which fosters economic co-operation with the idea of trading together and avoiding conflict among each other. It soon grew to become an entity that basically acted as a "country," allowing goods and people to move around freely. It has its own currency, the euro, which is used by 19 member countries and rules that govern them.

What I'm witnessing after the decision is the uncertainty of what the future holds for the UK. What is it going to be like when the process of withdrawal begins? More and more people seem to be questioning the decision after some unfavorable reaction to the market. It cannot be easily answered if the UK is better off as part of the EU because the separation hasn't marinated yet. We have heard intellectual people with strong opinions that leaving is going to be a mistake. Maybe so,  maybe not. Every change has its repercussion. While I'm not highly versed in this topic to know if the decision is right or wrong, I hope and believe that the voters voted for reasons they thought were right. Feel free to share in the comment section if you know more about this. I'll just wait like the people in the corner who are waiting to watch this play out. On that note, I'll say, good luck UK.

(ukoemem - Author; Ola Y - Editor)

Friday, June 24, 2016

She Said Gender Equality

I'm sure that after seeing the title you're wondering what has happened to me to write on this wonderful topic? Nothing, really. I just came across something that got my blood boiling. There was an Instagram post on "instablog9ja," a talk by Olori Wuraola, the wife of the Ooni of Ife, Oba Adeyeye Enitan Babatunde Ogunwusi, Ojaja II. This was at the Emerging Women's Forum, in Maryland, designed to discuss issues of gender equality.

I'm sure people who attended this were looking forward to learning more on how women could empower themselves and prove themselves that their gender shouldn't be a cause for missed opportunities. Women have to continue to work harder to show that they are not less intelligent or less powerful because they're women. Well, that wonderful day, Olori Wuraola herself said, "I am not a fan of gender equality. We can't be equal." Then she went on to talk about how women shouldn't be expected to take on roles of men. Say what? Her statement made it clear that she didn't know the meaning of gender equality.

Gender Equality is "the state in which access to rights or opportunities is unaffected by gender."

She was given a microphone to share ideas that would ultimately be imbibed by some people who may not have also known the meaning either. Her job was to talk about how the women have been affected by gender inequality and ways of improvement. Instead, she told us how we shouldn't take the role of a king and aim to be queens. Okay, Ma!

No one is equal. But everyone, man or woman, wants opportunities fair and square. Gender shouldn't be allowed to stifle progress. If a woman is qualified for a job that is traditionally male-oriented, why shouldn't she get it?

Her talk was definitely about roles in a household and not gender equality. She has her opinion on marital duties, but she wrapped her opinion in the wrong cloth. Next time when people are invited to speak on important societal matters, can their contents be screened ahead of their presentations? That would be great.

(ukoemem - Author; Ola Y - Editor)

Thursday, June 23, 2016

Shouldn't We Tell Stories Realistically?

Nothing is good about rape. It leaves victims in horrible psychological states. Even when the outward effects, such as bruises are healed, inwardly, only the victim can gauge the level of damage from which he or she suffers continuously . Knowing how deeply traumatizing rape is to people who have experienced it, and the possibility that they would painfully relive the experience when viewed on television, is it necessary for Outlander to portray that act so realistically? Will minimizing the harshness of the perpetrator and the suffering of the victim be better for viewers? Or will narrating the story as opposed to showing the gruesome act be best?

Season 1, episode 116 entitled "To Ransom a Man's Soul" was arguably one of the most talked about episodes on television in 2015 for obvious reasons. Jamie suffered a cruel sexual assault from Black Jack Randall and STARZ showed as much as possible. I remember watching - yet not actually watching because I closed my eyes more than I opened them during those brutal and extended flashback scenes.

I wasn't the only one.

Thursday, June 16, 2016

Taylor Swift and Tom Hiddleston

I don't usually post gossip but this was just too juicy to ignore. Just a few weeks after Taylor Swift and Calvin Harris split, photos have surfaced with Taylor Swift and Tom Hiddleston smooching. My eyes and mouth were wide open when I saw the photos. The comments on the have been making me laugh non-stop.

Some people have called this fling or whatever, an upgrade for Taylor. You go girl! Some are appalled and think Tom is too good for her. Some are not thrilled that Tom wouldn't take initiative and leave the drama that follows Taylor. Some think it's just a rebound thing. I think Taylor should take a break. Surely, this is just too much for the heart.

Whether it's a fling or something that would eventually blossom into more, I can't deny that they look good together. 

Friday, June 10, 2016

Broken Promises – Thoughts after watching S2E6 of Outlander entitled, Best Laid Schemes

What does it mean for an honorable man to go back on his word? We are faced with knowing that the repercussions of Jamie’s act of going back on his words are great. At the end of episode 6, we were left off with Black Jack injured in his lower extremities by Jamie, which poses the question of how Frank would exist if Black Jack is unable to get Mary Hawkins pregnant. Jamie was also arrested because of his dueling. In the process of this, Claire suffers a painful issue with her pregnancy. She watches in betrayal, how the man she loves went back on his word and cause another man dear to her heart to cease to exist.

From season 1, we know how greatly Claire and Jamie held their words and promises. Going back on a word can be very dangerous, as we saw in episode sixteen of season 1, when Claire’s capture by Black Jack puts Jamie and his men’s lives at risk. This event would have been avoided if she had just stayed put.

Now Jamie has gone back on his word, an ultimate betrayal to Claire because she doesn’t know why. Those who have read the book know why, and episode 7 might tell us why, but we can tell that it has something to do with Jamie’s visit to the brothel to take care of Prince Charles’ debts and Fergus going into that room that had the hanging red coat. In fact, Fergus’ reaction tells us who the owner of the room belongs to because Black Jack’s smirk is not one that anybody, let alone a child, could smile over.

Best Laid Schemes was heart-wrenching and a lot seemed to have gone wrong at the end of the episode. I’m left sitting at the edge of my seat as I wait for the next episode because the trailer only made me more anxious. I’m wondering if Claire would ever forgive Jamie for putting Frank’s existence in jeopardy.

(ukoemem - Author; Ola Y - Editor)

Wednesday, June 8, 2016

Sweater in the Heat

When you see a lady wearing a sweater in the height of summer, don't be too quick to judge. There is no such thing as sweater weather when the weather outside is hot and indoors is cold like a deep freezer. In the summer when people wear less outdoors, they end up having to wear more in an indoor outing. For instance, they take a sweater when they go to the movies or to the office or to attend programs that would require them to stay indoors for a long time. The cooling in buildings is so over-done that I always wonder why. 

The other day I joked that if you asked me about the clothing apart from underwear that didn't get a break, it would be the sweater. I was given a puzzled look and I explained myself. I need a sweater for buildings that feel like winter. I need it because I am never comfortable indoors with sixty degrees temperature. Sixty degrees indoors is not different from sixty degrees outdoors. They are both cold. But recently I've refrained from complaining and just focused more on comfort over trends. That seems to work for me. I loose the sweater when I'm outside and magically bring it out of my purse when I enter a building. Yes, I fold it so well it fits. The cool thing is shopping for sweaters in the summer. They're more affordable than when fall comes. Stock up on them now and don't worry about going out of style. Fashionistas do not worry about when they wear particular styles anymore because they wear it their own way. I guess what I'm saying is that you should focus more on your comfort than on trends.

(ukoemem - Author; Ola Y - Editor)

Saturday, May 28, 2016

Ignoring Full Priced Items

Favorite clothing stores are closing and the blame is on consumers shopping less. It is true that shopping in stores is taking a downward plunge and online shopping is getting more boost, but I think the issue lies in the way we have been trained to shop. For instance, shoppers now wait for the price of a merchandise to fall before they buy it. Why pay full price for it when it's going to fall in price soon or in the next season?

The funny thing is that the "next season" is the right season to wear that item. Clothing stores sell their clothes ahead of season; go shopping in the Summer and Fall items are already out for sale. Then the clearance section of the store will have past seasons as well as the Summer collections available. If I want to dress for the next day, the clearance section is where I would go. I wouldn't buy Fall items in the Summer unless I'm planning ahead or I see a style flying off the shelves quickly and I want to get my size before it's all gone. Stores with good clearance sections get more customers but that doesn't help their sales because price per unit item will be low and even if a customer buys what might seem to be a lot, the total wouldn't make the impact that the store hopes for.

Maybe it's the economy or maybe shoppers are simply refusing to spend so much on certain items. Whatever the reason may be, clothing stores are taking the hit. Also, people aren't as faithful to the "dress according to the season" rule anymore. Last Winter I saw a lot of bright colored coats as opposed to the subdued and dark colors that people usually go for. This was a refreshing change. The influx of fashion stylists and bloggers are bringing about a change in how fashion is viewed and people now wear a combination of what they feel like. The fashion rule book has been overturned. With all these issues in mind, how should clothing stores tackle these challenges? Should they have a strong online presence? Should they work on their pricing methods and the frequency that they introduce new styles? 

(ukoemem - Author; Ola Y - Editor)

Thursday, April 28, 2016

Facade by Emem Uko is FREE on Kindle for a Limited Time

Hello book lovers,

We all like freebies, right? Facade by Emem Uko is free on Kindle from Thursday, April 28 through Saturday, April 30. Let your friends know. Let book clubs know. You don't have to own a Kindle reader to be able to get it. You can go ahead and download the free Kindle App and then search for "Facade by Emem Uko."

If you're in young adult books or romance, then you'll enjoy this book so much. Have a wonderful time reading about Emma and her life after high school.


Happy reading!

Tuesday, April 19, 2016

Out and About - Appreciating Scenery

It was a beautiful Sunday that started out like most Sundays, but went on to be an amazing day. I caught the bus that would take me to the train station. My fellow passengers were either still sleepy or solemn-looking but I, on the other hand, was wide awake with my cup of hot decaf coffee in my favorite Starbucks cup.

As I walked into the train station, I was happy to see that the train was only two stops away. I looked around me and the train station was packed with people, unlike how early Sunday mornings usually are. I soon recalled that the Boston Marathon runners were in town and I admired all their colorful running shoes. The train came and I sat comfortably, putting on my earphones and listening to The Martian on Audible.

Church was wonderful and afterwards, I met up with my friend, who had told me earlier in the week that she was going to give me a tour of the wharf in the city. I was equipped with my running shoes and ready to enjoy a long walk after church.

I can't begin to tell you how great the city looked. The weather still held a slight chill, but it was sunny and clear. There were so many people around doing one thing or another and I admired the structures and waters around me. It's true what they say about being in a place and not really knowing the place. Most of us stick to a daily routine that doesn't give us time for exploration. It's always good to take time out of our busy schedules to walk around or drive around, depending on our locations and explore.

Go farther than you usually do. Eat in places that you're not familiar with. Attend shows that you think aren't your taste. You don't have to spend so much travelling when you have gems hiding within your city. All you have to do is to go looking for them. My walk, which was long by the way, was a sweet experience; one that I hope to do more often.

(ukoemem - Author; Ola Y - Editor)

Friday, March 11, 2016

Piece by Piece is Making Me Feel Some Type of Way

Has someone said something that made you think afterwards, "wow, I'm lucky," but then you feel guilty later because you realize that you don't express enough gratitude towards the people that are kind to you? Weeks ago, I heard the buzz about Kelly Clarkson's performance on American Idol and I had to watch it. I have been and still am one of her biggest fans and to me, she is one of the contestants that deserved her win fair and square. 

So, I went on YouTube and watched the performance. It takes a lot for me to get emotional about things, but this performance, the words, the music, my goodness! I listened to her sing, and I wondered how I would have turned out without having people who cared about my well-being. Imagine having a parent that you know exists, that you wanted in your life, that you found, but he or she cared less if you existed. That would be shattering to anyone, much more a young child. Kelly expressed the pain of that experience in her performance, which showed how long she had harbored the heartbreak since childhood until adulthood. I cannot imagine what she has been through, but I'm happy that she has persevered and now is a strong woman. The performance showed that she had learned a lesson to love and would never let her child go through what she went through.

Be thankful for those that care about you. Appreciate your parents, and parents, please be involved in your kids' lives no matter the circumstance.

(ukoemem - Author; Ola Y - Editor)

Monday, March 7, 2016

Fish Days From Tuesdays Through Thursdays

I've never been one to willfully change the channel to a cooking show and just casually watch it for fun. My encounters with cooking shows have just been in passing or situations where the TV is on and that's what is already showing with people watching. On few occasions, I got to watch snippets of a food show that starred Anthony Bourdain. From my understanding, he traveled the world and ate delicacies from those parts. Some of the foods featured are so bizarre that am always amazed when he chowed them down without flinching. I still wonder how his bowels survive after everything he eats; a testament that our digestive system is very powerful.

Anyway, as I scrolled through my daily news feed, I saw a lifestyle article that the title basically said Anthony Bourdain, who is a world-famous chef by the way, won't eat restaurant fish on Monday. I got the ding, ding, ding, and quickly opened up the article to find out why even though I suspected that it would have to do with the quality of the fish. I was right about a fraction of the reason. Yes, it's the quality, but this quality issue is for restaurants that aren't situated on the coast. Apparently, fresh fish only lasts about three days if properly refrigerated, and buyers of seafood who purchase in bulk of millions of pounds may not be equipped with the proper method of storage for their seafood.

Then imagine the fishes you get on Monday. Yes, they were probably purchased on Thursday because chefs typically order them on that day in preparation for the weekend since the market closes on weekends. Mr. Bourdain advises that you should order your fish from Tuesdays through Thursdays since the old fishes are likely to be thrown out after Monday. I never pay attention to these things but advice that steer you towards fresh foods doesn't hurt one bit.

(ukoemem - Author; Ola Y - Editor; Work Cited: Yahoo Lifestyle)

Monday, February 29, 2016

Oscars 2016 Fave Looks

I'm going to skip my least favorite looks of this year's Oscars and post only my favorites. In the past, I haven't posted a lot of men's looks and as Chris Rock said, "men wear the same thing." The only men that made my list were those that wore outfits that made them stand out or those that complimented their ladies' looks. 

(Outfits are not ranked)


Olivia Munn

Chrissy Teigen and John Legend

Rooney Mara
Jennifer Lawrence

Robin Roberts

Priyanka Chopra

Kate Winslet

Eniko Parrish and Kevin Hart

Jacob Tremblay

Margot Robbie

Michael Strahan

Charlotte Rampling

Zuri Hall

Cate Blanchett

Charlotte Riley and Tom Hardy
Rachel McAdams

Thursday, February 25, 2016

Now She's 'Monster Mom,' Really?

I want to believe that the person who wrote the article calling Charlize Theron a 'monster mom' is a PHD holder in Super Nanny. Her kid threw a tantrum in public and she grabbed him instead of letting him roll around and that is now grounds for being a monster. This unhealthy fascination with celebrities plus the shock when it finally dawns on us that they're humans just like us feeds a part of us that makes us judgmental. We have to be careful about that behavior. We sit on our moral thrones because our lives aren't as advertised. We see pictures and are quick to speculate and make conclusions.

I was so annoyed because I'm usually around kids and kids will always be kids. They don't care if you're the paparazzi or the President. They will act the way they feel in that moment. It's the constraint and the understanding of the adult that will help the situation. Maybe we expected Charlize Theron to just laugh at the situation or ignore it completely. Well boohoo, she is a mother and your own parental decision doesn't apply to her. Are you aware of what set off the tantrum? Do you know if one of those annoying camera-wielding individuals did something to create panic? 

If there's a real problem, let the right people take action, not trolls that think they have a right to write nonsense on their blogs because they think they know what's best. Yes, Ok Magazine published photos and behold, the mom-shaming of Charlize Theron began. Guess what? a psychotherapist was asked about the situation and here is what she said, "She's got to find out what's on his mind by asking him and letting him talk about his feelings, not dragging him around." After reading this, I was left wondering if this Dr. Gilda has met a four year old throwing a tantrum who will settle down and talk about his feelings. Wonderful advice, doctor, because that four year old is clearly thinking logically. 

(ukoemem - Author; Ola Y - Editor)

Friday, January 15, 2016

On a Budget Doesn't Mean Neglect Health

This is just a recent observation on my part. We all know of the 'low income equals obesity issue.' The cheap foods are supposedly the bad ones. Therefore, if I have little money then I will buy what I can afford like fast foods and cheap snacks. What about people who are well to do but still make poor health choices because they can eat whatever they want? They may not eat from most fast food restaurants but they can still get their hands on the same foods, only in expensive restaurants. I guess the point I'm trying to make is having little or so much money should not influence your choice to making healthy decisions.

Okay now, back to someone who is on a tight budget. Can they survive without going the "cheap equals bad food route"? Yes, they can. It takes a little more planning on their part. Do you know that for the same budget as someone who doesn't have a lot, you could actually buy better food choices? You just have to pay attention to the products and then you can look for their closest affordable substitutes. Trust me when I say that there are always cheaper versions of the good stuff. The business world knows how to sell the wrong things with catchy slogans. They make you believe what they want you to believe. Why not start thinking for yourself and believing that you can make things works with whatever meager amount of money you have? Why not focus on trying to look for ways of not compromising your health for the sake of "eating cheap?" 

Personally, I have a tight budget and have realized that it is possible to stick to it with smart planning. All it takes is paying more attention. I don't have to start eating at McDonalds just because I want cheap lunches. I won't lie that I have reduced my Starbucks treats which turns out to be a wonderful step in the right direction. The point I'm trying to make here is there are good and bad compromises. Stick to the one that is good and make it work. Take a turn from big brand names and try out store brands. Some of them are actually better than the popular brands. Pay attention to promotions and don't fail to ask the workers because they know all the hidden deals and the upcoming ones. Yes, I'm telling you to live frugally but not to the point where you cease to enjoy things. Practice simple things like cooking more and eating out less; choosing to drink more water as opposed to spending on beverages all the time. Take a walk and reduce your TV and online binge time, which happens to be times that some of us eat aka snack the most. Changes like I've mentioned can add to your bank account instead of your waistline. Anyway, I'm becoming wiser, thanks to my goal to eliminate debts and save more. Happy Reading!

(ukoemem - Author; Ola Y - Editor)

Thursday, December 17, 2015


Just out of curiosity, did anyone stick to their resolutions for 2015? I didn't have one this year, but I was on a mission to discover something about myself. In the past couple of years, I have embraced exercising because of my unwillingness to stop consuming sweets. This was my way of balancing things out and I've been content with my shape and size. Last year in particular, the "you're too thin" comment got out of hand. This was weird to me because the only change I had made was exercising more frequently. Then, I decided to slow down and when that did not seem to change the comments, my genius plan at the beginning of this year was to wean myself off exercise and then stop completely for a year. The weaning started out with three days of exercise a week, then two, then one, and then never. I stopped exercising in May 2015.

After today's workout, the first in seven months, I can truthful say that not exercising was the worst plan ever. Yes, it's not one year yet. The no exercise plan lasted for seven months and couldn't take it any longer. I didn't plan to begin exercising for the first reason that would come to anybody's head. In fact, I weigh less, which means, I lost muscle mass. Oh by the way, I did not reduce my calorie intake, so it has nothing to do with dieting. I refrained from posting the before and after photo because it would have sent the wrong message. I looked stronger, defined, and toned when I exercised as opposed to my just slim look without exercise. 

You know what's funny, I didn't disclose this plan to anyone. Guess what? I still got the "you're thin" comments during my no-exercise hiatus. There was also, "you look stressed and tired," "are you okay?," "maybe you should get more sleep." The funniest and most thought provoking statement for me was from a friend who said, "wearing big clothes won't hide your thin neck." That made me laugh but made me think. I'm way past the years when body image issues was a thing for me. What I didn't realize was that I was purchasing larger size clothes. I'm a big fan of oversize clothing but when it becomes more than a trend, then it's a problem. That opened my eyes. I'm not actually buying this larger sizes in the hopes of filling them up. I do like my size. 

This past year has thought me that I know myself more than anyone else, and I should always treat myself (my body) with love and care. I used to climb three flight of stairs like it was nothing, but now I huff and puff when I do it. I used to be faster and stronger. Now I feel a bit slower and less lively. I'm still fun though, thank goodness! My workout today showed me how unfit I had become. I couldn't even hold a plank exercise for two minutes. I'm so happy I'm back because I missed it badly. Happy New Year to you all in advance and please don't make stupid resolutions. Cheers!

(ukoemem - Author; Ola Y - Editor)

Wednesday, November 25, 2015

Spread the Good

In a time like this when most of what we are seeing and hearing are the horrible actions of humans, it is good to share news of good works by our peers and other people in the world. The goal of social media isn't only to spread the news of strife, suffering, violence, and terrorism but to also share news of love, kindness, goodness, and hope. I want to share with you an act of kindness by Blessing Bassey, the founder of Authentic B Foundation and her team because I think they are inspirational and motivational. On Friday, November 13, 2015 - World Kindness Day, Blessing and her team visited schools, a home for aging people, and a police station to spread love, speak and help people with needs, hand out gifts, and pray for them. You have no clue what a tiny act of kindness can do to a person. Sometimes, just a smile can change a person's perspective of life and give an individual a ray of hope.

Blessing Bassey is from Akwa Ibom state, Nigeria. She resides and works as a lawyer in Abuja, the capital of Nigeria. She is described by her friends and colleagues as a kind, God fearing, and fun loving person.

She wrote a piece in commemoration of the 2015 World Kindness Day. Here it is below.

by Blessing Bassey

Kindness can be defined as “the quality of being friendly, generous and considerate.” Our world today is full of evils like mischief, anger, selfishness and cruelty. These mannerisms are seeds that take root when sown by one person, and quickly propagates to the next, making the world a toxic forest of negativity. Kindness is the forest fire the world needs to burn away these undesirable trees.
It is sad to see that many people neglect this modest, yet effective fire of kindness. We must receive with gratitude every opportunity to show kindness, as it is the much-needed warmth in this cold world. Simple acts like a helping hand here and there, a show of compassion, encouraging words and a friendly smile are enough to turn around an already ruined day for someone. These acts remind people that they are loved and needed, which in turn repairs their bruised confidence and self-worth.
Now and again, people experience difficulties in their lives, stemming from their career, education, relationships, family, faith etc. These difficulties make them forget other people and get engrossed in their problems, leading to a negative reaction of selfishness. A selfish generation is the last thing the world needs today. Everyone, regardless of his or her situation must embrace kindness, as acts of kindness never go futile. Kindness reflects positively on the lives of both the doer and recipient. On one hand, the recipient is overwhelmed with feelings of joy and delight, while the doer is satiated with feelings of warmth and compassion. These positive reflections contribute immensely to making a world a better place to live in.
It would be very selfish to limit kindness to only humans. As a matter of fact, kindness is the driving force of the universe. All living beings that exist in nature respond to this language of kindness. Mute animals wag their tails in appreciation of kindness shown to them by their owners; plants grow, flourish and bear fruits also in appreciation of the kindness of their caretaker. Nature itself shows kindness by giving the sun, rains, seasons, etc. thereby sustaining the life of all its inhabitants.
Synonyms of kindness include altruism, benevolence, care, compassion, consideration, hospitality, magnanimity, and warmth. In all its variations, kindness is undisputedly considered a virtue by all religions. It is a variant of love, which is deemed the ‘greatest virtue’ in the Christian faith. It shouldn’t be regarded as a mere religious obligation, but should rather be imbibed in all spheres of life, be it in the family, neighbourhood, work, and even in business, because selfless deeds usually yield favourable rewards.
Popular American author Mark Twain once defined kindness as “the language that the deaf can hear and the blind can see.” He couldn’t be further from the truth as this language transcends boundaries and is comprehended by all. We must embrace kindness as a way of life, a habit, a common attribute rather than a rare trait. When this is done, we would have re-kindled the dying fire in our world today. No matter how small the act, always make a point of showing kindness to others and yourself.
Written in Commemoration of 2015 World Kindness Day (Friday, November 13th)
Inspiring the U in You

Like Blessing, I urge each and every one of us to be kind and spread love. Find Blessing Bassey on instagram as @authenticb900