Wednesday, March 25, 2015

It's His Decision

Maybe it's true; maybe not, but whatever he decides, it's his life. I'm writing concerning the news that Zayn Malik has left the boy band, One Direction, and fans are shedding some tears. Before anyone throws accusations and opinions out there, have they thought to ask why? Zayn joined this band as a teen; most people tend to forget that. Imagine getting endless scrutiny from your teen years till you clock twenty-two. Some 'so called fans' automatically act like they know you and they feel they have a say in whatever you do just because they think they're entitled. He gets a haircut; someone has something bad to say about it. He opens his eyes; someone has an opinion about it. How can a person live like that? Many will say that he knew what he was getting into for wanting to be a singer. That is not a fair statement because no one should live like they have minions micro-managing their every move. Some boy bands formed at a more mature age and still could not handle the hate from the mean idiots out there. The truth is, no matter how old you are, you cannot toughen up enough to protect yourself from feeling bad about what people say to you, about you, or about someone close to you. What I hope is that Zayn Malik has thought through this before deciding to quit because based on other boy bands that have had a member quit, that member wanted to return in later years. Having a taste of this life and leaving it after a number of years will not be easy for him, since the other members will continue without him. But, if that's what he wants and he thinks it's better for him, he has the right to live his life in the way he sees best. To those tweens bawling their eyes out, suck it up! When you were feeling good, hiding behind your tweeter feeds, being abusive, judgmental, and scary, did you not realize that you could drive him to call it quits?

(ukoemem - Author; Ola Y - Editor)

Tuesday, March 10, 2015

Don't Wish To Be Them

As long as we cannot read minds, we should not wish to be anyone else but ourselves. Why? because we never know the true story of people's lives. Photos and videos are deceptive. We are shown only what people want us to see and not what the situation really is.

Okay, this is a deep blog post but I just had to share my thoughts on the matter. I'm writing this because lately I've seen comments like "life goals" under photos of people looking glamorous or couples looking happy and in love. I'm not saying we shouldn't aspire for the better things in life but I'm pointing out that the photos only show a moment, and not the person's whole life. People wishing to be others based on photos are aiming to be "their perception of the person's life." Why waste your time wishing and living false lives, just to be a counterfeit of someone else? Then one day, you wake up and wonder who you really are. Why not learn about yourself and discover all you can do? Why not aim to be a better version of yourself instead?

Wishing to be someone else based on the photos they post creates an unhealthy obsession that makes individuals angry when they later discover less than ideal things about their so called "life goal target." We are all humans. Life is not always rosy but we feel inclined to share the best; best picture, best videos, best moments etc. Live your own life and admire your idols but don't wish to be them because you aren't seeing the whole picture.

(ukoemem - Author; Ola Y - Editor)

Thursday, February 26, 2015

Why Facade?

Good question. The funny thing about choosing this title was that it was effortless. I already had three titles in mind while I wrote the book but when I got to the last line of the book, it changed to Facade. One meaning of Facade is "an outward appearance that is maintained to conceal a less pleasant reality." With this title, you already wonder what the character is hiding. That's my intent.

The short explanation that goes along with the publicity of Facade says,

"To the naked eyes, Emma, a recent high school graduate, is beyond beautiful and smart, which is a combination that would give any girl an immeasurable sense of self-confidence. But as it turns out, the eyes are yet to discover and understand the real Emma. Adam, her saving angel who is wise beyond his years, wholeheartedly accepts the real Emma and teaches her to do the same."

While I can't give away too much about the book, know that there are life lessons that Emma learns, which are true for most of us:

  • Overcoming self-doubt
  • Learning not to choose the substitute over the real thing we want to do because of fear of failure
  • Not waiting until something drastic happens before we take the leap
That's all I'm going to share for now. Enjoy Facade and tell me what you think :)

Sunday, February 22, 2015

Fashion and Style - Oscars 2015 Red Carpet

Normally I'd rank not more than ten best styles that stood out to me. This year's Oscar red carpet styles have managed to put me in a state of utter confusion - in a good way. I'm finding it difficult to rate my best styles for the evening because there are too many. In fact, there will be no room for any least favorites because I'll just focus on the good ones since they're numerous. Here are my favorite twenty styles in no specific order.

Emma Stone

Anna Kendrick

Jennifer Hudson

Jennifer Lopez

Rosamond Pike


Behati Prinsloo and Adam Levine

Lupita Nyong'o

Dakota Johnson

Miles Teller and Keleigh Sperry


Faith Hill


Chris Pine

Rita Ora

Channing Tatum and Jenna Dewan

Jennifer Aniston

Zoe Saldana

Chrissy Teigen and John Legend

Naomi Watts

Friday, February 20, 2015

How I Wrote It

"Wrote what?" You might ask. A book. Writing is a big deal for me. It's something I realized I loved to do after I re-read a journal I kept in high school and laugh at how funny it turned out to be. My thought process is so complicated that I feel the need to pen it down. I just start to write on any and everything, not limiting myself because I think that ideas shouldn't have boundaries. Z and S is a wonderful channel that has given me the opportunity to continue to practice my writing, although it is limited to non controversial topics. 

I had never entertained the idea of publishing a book until I had a story that kept swimming in my head and then this one character became so important that she yielded branches. These branches were made up of  friends and family and just kept expanding. The story formed into something bigger that I had to write it down; I needed room in my head again because it was filled with Emma and her story. Yes, Emma is fictional. She is a combination of three real life ladies. One of them is a friend of mine; another is someone I met briefly; and the last is someone I've never met in person. My book is fictional, so the story line is made up.

In my case, there was no guide to how I started writing the book. I just got up one day and started to type. Of course I didn't start out with, "Once upon a time..." but there was already an outline. I knew how the story was going to end. My task was to take you on the journey and not rush to get you there. You had to understand Emma and her story. In this writing process, I learned that going back to make edits before finishing the book is a bad idea because this might make you change things and complicate your story. You want to make your changes when you're done - at least that's what I did because it was easier and made the story line consistent.

Do not second guess yourself. Do not tell yourself that you're a bad writer and then abandon the story. There are writing guides everywhere - both hard copies and online. Use those helpful guides and then when your manuscript gets to a publisher, they will do some clean up too. Focus on your story and leave self-doubt about your writing ability out of the door.

(ukoemem - Author; Ola Y - Editor)

Tuesday, February 10, 2015

Grammy Awards 2015 Fashion Highs

Is it just me or this year's Grammy was not strong in terms of style and the overall show? Well I still managed to pick a few red carpet styles I liked. I saw so much effort in the overall appearances of these individuals. Here are my best seven red carpet fashion picks.

Chrissy Teigen

Jane Fonda


Taylor Swift




Thursday, January 29, 2015

Another Johnny Miss

Johnny Depp is a talented actor, no argument about that. But he has been involved in movies with one-sided characters, though funny but still one-sided. It's like watching him as the same person in different movies, even though that is really not the case. It just feels that way to me and it is getting bland. He plays caricatured characters so well that he can give all Three Stooges a run for their money. I acknowledge his acting abilities but I think we are ready for something else - another strong character. He should leave comedy and try another genre - preferably something deep. I would watch that without a second thought. I have been tired of seeing his movies since "The Lone Ranger" and then seeing him as the wolf in "Into the Woods" was like duh! of course. It's sad to say that I don't have the urge to watch "Mortdecai" at the movies, even though it may be an awesome movie. There are other movies out there now that have peaked my curiosity more. Johnny Depp should remind movie goers of his versatility and make movies that show us that. Hope is not lost. I'll be watching out for something fresh and new.

(ukoemem - Author; Ola Y - Editor)

Monday, January 19, 2015

Perfectly Sweet and Tart Combo

This is just something I concocted for those of us who look for something to help us feel better after indulging in massive amounts of unhealthy food. Enjoy!

Veggie, Fruit, and Nut Snack Combo


1/2 Cup Sliced Black Grapes
1/2 Medium Sized Chopped Granny Smith Apple
1/2 Stalk Chopped Celery
1 Teaspoon Walnut 
1 Tablespoon Oats
1/4 Teaspoon Ground Cinnamon
1Teaspoon Raw Honey

Wednesday, January 14, 2015

Just a Little Garnish

How do you get somebody's when you want them to notice something? Recently, I learned about the little tweaks people can do to something to make it difficult to ignore. It's a challenge to make something unique but the addition of a 'little something' can add to its appeal. You might have started telling me to make my point already. I changed the look of my Etsy shop recently and the feedback was off the chats. The items didn't necessarily change but the presentation did. I had formally presented the items in an unappealing plain background and didn't think of the damage that did to the appearance of the page. The change of background and the addition of character made the difference I needed. I recently thought of what made me stop to view an Instagram page or a web site. The answer was simple - character. The character of a page might be something that either beautifies or makes it weird. Either way, it is something that shouts, "stop and notice me."

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(ukoemem - Author; Ola Y - Editor)

Monday, January 12, 2015

Golden Globe Awards 2015: My my! and Yikes!!

This year's Golden Globe Awards red carpet event was lighted up with fashion choices that turned heads - both good and bad. I was impressed with details of outfits, makeup and accessories. My five favorites and five less favorites were ranked by overall styling from head to toe. I have to commend the couples even though none were together on my five favorite looks of the night. They were generally paired nicely. 

Favorite Five

1) Kate Hudson

2) Matt Bomer

3) Chrissy Teigen

4) Helen Mirren

5) Emma Stone

Least Favorite Five

1) Tina Fey

2) Amanda Peet

3) Alan Cumming

4) Claire Danes

5) Zosia Mamet